Embracing the Fact that I will always be "The Other Guy".

In high school I was socially awkward and I grew in height up until my senior year in high school.
I was your typical "late bloomer".
Thus, I think that most people, including myself, as well as my Mother, figured I was a "Beta".
Even my Mother stated to me that: "You seem like the type of guy that would get married and would have only one woman".
Oh my Mother has no idea how insulting she can be to both men and woman, and especially me.
And unfortunately, she has paid a price for that lack of sensitivity.
But I digress.

I got dissed by quite a few chics until my 3rd year of college when I figured out how to be popular.
I was in a Fraternity, had a car, was known to be the "Smart One" in my fraternity and I knew many of the popular athletes on Campus.
I was in the perfect place, A Major University in Southern California, Mid 1990s, plenty of pretty women that wanted to hang out in Los Angeles.
I enjoyed having sex with multiple women, serial monogamy specifically.
I did not feel the need to brag about it.
Therefore, I didn't.
I would have sex with the chic, never announce it and never PDA anywhere on campus.
In regards to having sex with multiple women, this was intuitively the most brilliant strategy that I adopted but was never taught.

It would be months to years after I stopped seeing a chic that guys would hear that I boned.
Which helped, women would hook up with me assuming that I was the monogamous type.
In fact, during my senior year many women that had ignored me in the past were looking to hook up with a "sucker" for a long term relationship.
I was going to Grad school and it was presumed I would be successful.
These "ladies" came to me with smiles and bright eyes.
I had already realized that I had not got into the Grad school of my choice because I was having to much fun.
And women, I figured, were the main poison.
Thus, the women that approached me at the end of College had this sad and bewildered look when I showed them no interest.
Schadenfreude and ego boost!
However, looking back I should have boned them as well, assuming I could have done it without spending much time on them.

Sure enough I had crushes in College but most of the time I didn't get the girl I really wanted because I did not want to put up with their bullshit.
At the time I did not know it, but this was a key sign that I was Alpha.
Terms like "Alpha" and "Beta" were not popular at the time.
However, the terms "Player" and "Loser" were understood.
Still, because of the institutional brainwashing of men in the "Western World" I still felt that I had to settle with the "Perfect Girl".
This brainwashing still had its effect on me until my mid 30s.
After that I considered hooking up just to have a son with a rich chic.

But I still had 4 nagging thoughts:
1) Some one else already hit that, in regards to the Perfect Girl.
2) There is no real way to prove virginity.
3) I want to hook up with new chics nearly every day.
4) I want to keep most of my cash and belongings.

Strangely enough it was a woman, a very pretty woman in her mid 20's that gave me clarity in my early 20s.
I was telling her that in summary, everyone wants you to settle with one girl.
However, I told her that I realized that chics tend to like the guys that have multiple women.
Furthermore, I stated that I wanted to have sex with multiple women.
So I told her that I didn't know what to do.
This chic was a real bitch.
However, in a moment of mercy she smiled, turned to me, grabbed my hand and said:
"Do what you want."

There were other moments when older women told me to essentially not even worry about women.
As well as one older guy who simply said:
"If you spend to much effort on them (Women)......you're really just wasting your time".
At this point, I have had affairs with married women as well as women in relationships, while I remain single.
I am 42.  I recently had sex with this 19 year old 38 DDD Latina, Gold Digger......:)
After getting her to come she asked me why I wasn't married.
I told her it was not really a priority.
She confirmed what I did for a living, which we had briefly discussed and then said:
"Yeah, your really not the type that women say is good to marry...."
I might see her again this weekend.
Tonight I have a date with this other 23 year old Caucasian chic, nice ass, nice tits, pretty face.
Jeez, I hope she doesn't flake.
Good times.

Play Boys (Players) and Gold Diggers.

 

I saw a blog on Plenty of Fish that attempted to get a discussion going about this topic.

The moderator proposes that these types of people are the same person.

I agree with this assertion to a certain extent.

However, more importantly, I believe they are natural, mating partners.

Player/Play Boy:

Now to be sure when I refer to Players I am not speaking of broke guys that fake the funk and pretend they are wealthy. Those type of players are con artists.

I am talking about the "Tony Stark" type of player that is rich, cultured and yes attracts women with his wealth and personality. He is generous and gives money as well as advice to the women he dates. He is also not ashamed that most women in his life demand generosity.

He is usually at least 35 but more likely is at least 40 years old.

Most likely never married.

This type of player has dated women traditionally in the past but because of his status, average to cute women (except those in his age range) tend to veer away from him due to the fact that he would be a challenge to lock into a LTR.

Gold Digger:

Now to be sure I am not talking about a women like the New York Strippers that drugged the professionals and took them to a club were they ran up charges on their credit cards.

Those are criminals.

I am also not talking about women that date 80 year old men or diminutive men that they can control and are looking for an LTR only. Strangely, these type of women that I described above tend to avoid/do not seek out the play boy.

Main reason.

He is too smart.

The play boy is actually a shrewed character that is on the look out for danger in all aspects of his life, business and personal.

The Gold digger I am referring to is a student or at least partially if not employed full time.

In addition, although often not discussed, the Gold Digger can be a rich princess looking for a provider.

These women are looking for a good time with a quality guy.

They actually want a challenge.

They want a leader.

And yes, possibly an LTR but they want to be led.

They don't want a push over.
Your thoughts?
 

INTROSPECTION

I have been stewing for sometime.

Something in me want to have an LTR with a solid chic.

But then I realize that I am boning young hot chics whenever I want.

However, of course they really aren't doing much with their lives and most likely are promiscuous

So.....no dice.

I wish I could extract that last bit of wanting an LTR.

But its my ego.

It is very difficult to create a dynasty with out having children, check that productive children.

And the best way to have productive children is to form a family.

Here is the thing (I hate that saying):

There are women out there that I would LTR but I doubt will find them in So Cal.

And that means going out and importing them from some conservative area of the country or world and essentially funding their life and those of our potential children.

This requires millions of dollars which I don't have yet.

Another is have an LTR with a "respectable" rich girl from my area.

I just don't trust California women.

Everyone of them thinks the can get away with highway murder.

So they try!

No dice.

So I get the feeling that I may get what I want but it will have to wait until I make a lot more cash and meet a lot more families.
Until then, keep hooking up with super hot barely legals and young 20 year olds,

and older chics that look hot.

I'm spoiled.

I cant complain!

Now I feel better.

Straight Kentucky Bourbon & Islay Scotch: Maker's Mark and Laphroigh.

Bowmore is good and gentile but not as distintive and tasty, while being just as gentile, as Laphriog in my estimation.. Maker's is distinctive, flavorful and smooth as well as gentile! That is why Maker's is whiskey bacon!And commercially available to the masses at 45 Proof! As it has been alluded to before by many a whiskey drinker, cognac drinkers to irish whiskey drinkers: Maker's took the bite out of whiskey.  In modern terms, they cracked the code.

Are Purity Balls literally the Holy Grail for the Alpha Male?

If you are an over achiever, relatively rich and good looking and you are looking to have a family, number one you want to earn well as well as hedge your bets and protect your money.
However, most importantly, but secondly you should want an Attractive Woman from a reasonably affluent family that is between the years of 18 and 24 years old and is chaste.

Chastity belts most likely will never occur again hopefully for moral and individual human rights reasons.
However, that being said more than a few woman have admitted to me personally and admitted in public at large that they: "Could have waited".  Or those woman that realized at 30 that no man that they even find acceptable is interested in a Long Term Relationship (LTR).  So thus, a chastity belt is Medieval, however a system for binding chastity to Long Term Relationships is simply practical and smart.

And now, enter Purity Balls, see link below:
http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/lifestyle/2014/03/wife-of-father-daughter-purity-ball-founder-offers-glimpse-into-purity-lifestyle/
In this construct we have a possible, meaningful and socioeconomic, Chastity/LTR adhesive.

The Ultimate Longterm Mate for a successful Alpha Male: Burning Hot, Barely Legal Woman from a Rich Family that has worn a chastity belt since birth.

Is there a place where you can court women that have worn Chastity belts since birth?

Also what is the mechanism that will ensure that the belt has never been compromised.

Every Rationale Male understands that women cannot be trusted in regards to sexual history.

Answer: Only deal with women that are young whose Chastity can be technically assured.

IRL Social Relationships: Business, Women and wait, what else is there??

Summary:

My Life Is Surreal. (LIS)

Business:

I am a 41 year old man and I have started a new, diversified, and multifaceted business with seemingly solid business partners.

My new business partners are a husband and wife team that actually seem to complement my strengths and that crave growth but not at the cost of stability. 

Not the “boiler room types”, although they may be hard workers they are short sighted and frankly, in the long run, a pain and deleterious.

The diversity of my business is such that I can work for others or for myself at any time, day or night, 7 days a week, 24 hours a day. 

I usually work in some capacity, 7 days a week, but weekends are usually light.

I’m starting to slowly creep back in the Market, just Mutual Funds but hey, it’s a start.

I’m not ready to start day trading again.

And I am dying to start a new business venture that will produce a new revenue stream.

Sure, I am still paying down my debts from the recession.

But even debt repayment is going well and I have a plan.

And yes, I could be doing better and I am trying!

Social Relationships, Ladies first of course:

I begin and manage relationships with women, the ages of 18-22 years old at will.

Listen; even I can’t believe it at times.

But these are those TIMES.

After 50 years, Feminism and Technology have conjured up a smorgasbord of broke young women with no sturdy father figures, "ONLINE NOW".  Then there is the successful, middle aged man, never married, with no children that survived the great recession and is socioeconomically growing.  So there you have it: The supply and the demand.

These are the most beautiful women I have dated so freely in my life.

The most beautiful women I have dated since my early 20’s.

But the numbers, variety and quality are higher.

And now, I have money and freedom as well.

Not a Honda, a Beemer.

Not an apartment, a town house.

Not inner city, coastal.

I will blow a few hundred on a nice weekend date in a heartbeat.

Hey, I took people’s shit all week for this money, the least I can have is a little fun with a hot barely legal.

I still have the mid 30’s stand by women but I feel them drifting away, and I welcome it.

It’s for the best.

Attraction is there but very little emotion is submitted by both sides.

But some emotion, since it is difficult to not like your relationship mate. 

I do care for these women; I do want them to do well.

And I help them when are where I can.

Breaking up is an anxious moment at times, but if done nicely, it is a relief.

Men (?):

And then I realize it.

Oh yes, I use to go out with men and try to pick up women at bars, the public arena.

Yes, I have done this more than once and it is fun.

But the bar/club scene is horribly inefficient and at times dangerous if you hook up with a crazy chic or a crazy guy gets jealous.   

But honestly, if you are a go getter and have the ability to garner consistent cash and women:

The Non-Business/Professional, Male Friend (Wing Man) serves no purpose in your life.

Even if he is related to you by blood, still useless.

Luckily, most of my male friends are Business and Professional associates, so they are in my Social Life.

However, rarely am I motivated to go out with them.

We text, email and rarely talk unless one of us wants to babble about some personal issue.

Usually me.

I read in an online article that women want Successful Men and Men want to be Successful.

I do believe that this pattern, if I am lucky, will continue indefinitely.

However, I do realize this position is built on eternal vigilance and the love of productive work.

Money and Power are necessary.

It’s not easy but it Is Real Life (IRL).